Guest Post by Karen Marshall
Pushy Parent Syndrome
Is this something you are experiencing in your studio?
I recently attended a teacher meeting where a teacher was relaying her recent experiences with a very difficult parent of a young 6-year-old student. As I pondered the topic I realised that ‘pushy parent syndrome’, luckily, has not been something that I’ve recently encountered as regularly as in my young teaching years.
I felt it may be helpful to share some practices I’ve developed which have certainly made my teaching life far easier.
My approach is partly a conflict resolution one. I would add its a “work in progress” – I would never claim to have all the answers and I’m still learning constantly after over 25 years of piano teaching!
I say conflict resolution because a relationship between a teacher and parent has potential for conflict, simply because the parent purchases the lessons and the child receives them. The relationship is a triangle – if anyone has ever had a dotted line with two managers you will know first-hand the problems that can cause.
- The parent’s needs may be different to the child’s – conflict.
- The parent’s expectations may be different to the abilities of the child – conflict.
Before you know it, you are jam-sandwiched between the child and the parent. So, what are the practical things I try to employ to make things easier and – most importantly – best for the student whilst maintaining good professional practices?